Revealing Statistics on Infidelity
Infidelity is regarded as immoral and an unbecoming behavior in most cultures, however, society’s view doesn’t seem to deter people from having affairs. Statistics on infidelity reveal that 53% of divorces are the direct result of infidelity.
Infidelity with Relatives
Perhaps, because they think their spouse’s relative will keep the relationship a secret, people engage in affairs with family members. 17% of infidelity cases reported involve brothers or sisters-in-law. These types of affairs purportedly go on for a quite some time before the individuals are exposed.
Infidelity in the Work Place
Studies show that 36% of infidelity cases happen between co-workers, with the same percentage (36%) of professionals admitting to having extramarital sexual relations while on business trips.
The Desire to Cheat Is High
74% of men admit that if they knew they would never be caught, they would have an affair. Nonetheless, 68% of women say they would do so if they could be certain their spouse would never know.
How Many Have Cheated?
Only 57% of men admit to having had an affair; 54% of women say they’ve been unfaithful to their husbands. Studies have also revealed that on average, affairs last for about 2 years.
The Consequences
One additional important point with regards to this area of interest. Infidelity carries with it dire consequences. This is confirmed by the number of marriages which continue after an affair has been confirmed — only 31%. Most people who have lost their mate and children due to infidelity will readily admit that it was not worth losing their family. Unfortunately, they didn’t thoroughly consider the ramifications beforehand.
Emotional Affairs
These statistics are disheartening at best. Apparently, people don’t know themselves very well and go into marriage believing that they can be faithful. Marriage is optional in most cultures and people are free to marry or remain single. Serious thought should be given to making a lifelong commitment to be faithful to one person “for as long as you both shall live.” That could be a very long time.
The more promiscuous society becomes, potentially the negative affects on the institution of marriage could be greater. The divorce rate could continue to climb as more and more affairs are discovered. More people could opt to remain single because they don’t believe that the faithful commitment they would desire in marriage is possible. Marriage could become a dinosaur, and ultimately it would be the children who would suffer the most. A larger number of children would be the product of broken homes or born into a single parent home.
Most people who have affairs say that they’re not happy or fulfilled in their marriages. Couples need to nurture their relationship and treat each other with respect. They need to get to know one another on a very intimate level to help ward off the desire to look outside of the marriage for satisfaction of any kind.
If infidelity has barged into your relationship, it does not have to end your marriage. As the foregoing statistics show, 31% of couples haven’t divorced. It’s possible for you, too, to resolve the’ssues in your relationship and stay together.
Caroline Dean is an advocate for marriage. She promotes resolution to marital conflict. For more on statistics on infidelity visit http://www.cheatingspouseshelpcenter.com
Is there any PROOF that JFK was unfaithful to Jackie Kennedy? As in evidence. As in it would be valid in court. Not, “oh well the media was aware.” Thank you very much.
How to overcome an “emotional affair??”? We’re trying to overcome an “emotional affair” my husband had briefly with a woman at his work. (he let himself get attached to her and they spent a lot of time together, talked a lot on the phone, internet etc, they became very close, not just good friends and he allowed his feelings to grow for her.) She's happily married herself and (apart from perhaps not telling him to back off when she should have)didn’thing to encourage his behaviour, I'm not blaming her. Things came to a head when I overheard him say to her on the phone “you drive me crazy.” That killed me. I was very hurt as you can imagine. He has apologised so many times and says he knows it was wrong and innappropriate. He said its over and done with now, and the feelings are gone.He said he was confused for a long time, about his love for me, being married etc, and she just kind of came along at the wrong time. He says he does love me and he doesn't plan to leave me. He's been trying to win back my trust, he has distanced himself from her at work, deleted her number from his phone, not seeing her outside of work etc etc. These are all positive steps and I'm slowly getting over the hurt. But I still feel SO insecure, I keep having the urge to check his phone, check his emails etc. When I'm at work I feel anxious and tearful, knowing they're working together and want to know where he’s all the time, check my phone constantly to see if he's texted me etc. I know this isn't normal behaviour and I hate feeling so paranoid and clingy. I know trust doesn't come back automatically and its only been four weeks since all this happened, but I don't want to feel like this for the rest of my life. Someone said to me recently, “why do you feel like this, he hasn't ACTUALLY cheated on you” but it still hurts whenever I think of the things he said to her and the feelings he had for her, even if they’re slowly going. How can I stop feeling paranoid and suspicious? How can I start trsuting him again completely? Any tips for people who have overcome/ forgiven infidelity and how to move on?? Thanks xx
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Rebuilding trust is equally difficult for both involved. For him, he’ll have to do what it takes to prove to you that he made a mistake that will never happen again. He’ll have to accept that there will be times you’re suspicious and will have your doubts. For you, you have to be willing to show him that what he’s doing is working. Most people will give up when it seems their attempts at fixing things aren't working. This displays a bit of selfishness, but is slightly understandable. For him to continue trying, you can’t throw things in his face. There is no future in the past. Constantly looking behind you makes it extremely difficult to see what is right in front of you. No one is saying that you have forget what he has done. The truth is you never will. Additionally, if you’re wanting this relationship to survive, then you have to control the emotion more than it controls you. You have a long road ahead of you. Remember, the true character of a couple is defined by their ability to make it through the hard times.
He has to win back your trust – i think if he’s really trying you shouldn’t have the urge to check his email, phone etc because he should just be open about it and let you see it.