Purpose of Christian Marriage Counselling
All churches provide Christian marriage counselling for couples before and during their marriages in understanding each other and God better.
If you ask any couple out there, they’ll most probably tell you that they already know about each other even though they don’t. Even if they’ve problems, they’ll not reveal unless they choose to quarrel in public.
The truth is not everyone of us are born to be psychologists or have parents who either one or both specializes in that field. Though it’s not compulsory for us to know everything, it’s still compulsory for us – especially men – to know basic psychology. Such as understanding and fulfilling your spouse’s needs without being asked verbally time and again.
Yet another important point concerning this content. If you’re Christians and are planning to marry or already married, you certainly have an advantage over non-Christians. Because as church members, you already have network of people willing to help you since they consider you as part of God’s family. Cell members, leaders and pastors are usually the ones most couples willconfide their problems to.
Then again, Christian marriage counselling is required for three core problems as in:
1. General problems such as lack of communication and understanding as they may not adjust to each other’s lifestyle and schedule.
2. Personal and unspoken problems happening within a marriage and resulting in fear, insecurity etc. Such as lack of money.
3. Violation of Christian values like not being honest with spouse and having an affair with someone else.
These are some if not all the problems most couples face. If they’re not being resolved, they can potentially destroy their marriages and even the lives of their children if they’ve any.
But since most Christians attend cell and church meetings regularly on weekdays and weekends, those problems can be solved if they open up to God and their church network and do exactly what they’re told to do.
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From the beginning, marriage is God’s plan for his creation of Adam and Eve. It’s often our temptation – as in the case of Eve – that allows Satan to enter our lives and conquer our desires. This is even more apparent in the 21st century due to the increase in divorce rates.
That brings me to the next question:
What do you hope to get from marriage?
In the olden days, they marry to please their parents since their parents are the ones who arrange marriages. In the modern days now, they want to fulfil their sexual desires or use marriages as an excuse to cover any pregnancy due to their frequent sex.
Christian or not, this still happens. Recent statistics have shown that girls as young as twelve already lose their virginity and those who reached twenty treat marriage casually and have no regrets of divorcing if they get fed up with their spouses.
In other words, love is no longer their priority even if they claim it’s. It’s curiosity, sex drive and excuse to cover any pregnancy issues that drives them to marry as their only choice. This is so that when the pregnancy issues arise that they claim these happen after marriage which unfortunately is not the case most of the time.
It’s only after one or two years that cracks begin to appear unless they’re financially independent and not having any problems with money and even themselves.
Even with Christian counselling, not all problems can be eliminated at one go. If the couple is not honest with each other and the people around them, those problems will still be there and grew like viruses.
Addiction, affairs, lack of money and incompatibility in adjusting to each other’s lifestyles and schedules are usually what result in marriage breakdown.
The way I see it, only the couple themselves can solve those problems if they want to. They can pray together not with their cell or church members but just by themselves so that their minds will be clearer and more focused on what God wants them to do.
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Financial problems in my marriage? My husband has to pay four hundred dollars in loans from each check he gets. So I know how much is left over by the time the loans are taken out automatically. I also keep up with how much the bills are. Additionally, he’s not budgeting well and I suggested that we turn my account with a different bank into a joint account for spending money as his bank only does credit for checking cards. Meaning, when things are pending, you don’t see the actual balance until the money is taken out with certain things like gas for instance. I told him with my account, we would see everything and the available balance even if it’s pending. Of course, he refuses and told me there is no point in switching the money over to a joint account yet I see different. He has caused us to go in debt with every pay check for the past five months because he refuses to budget well. I'm actually getting tired of all this stress that could be avoided if he would just agree with me! He said he would rather have the spending money be in cash and leave the cash in our house. I told him hell no because that’s extremely irresponsible as we can lose the money or worst, a home robbery. He blames it on the loans but it's not the loans, it's his lack of budgeting well. How am I going to convince my husband in getting a joint account?
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The only that worked for me was to stop rescuing us when my husband did that, which really sucked with utilities and which 'forced' him to get private loans to get caught up…but it worked. It sucks when the conversation comes down to “Either you trust that I know WTF I'm doing and you stop spending improperly, or I'm leaving. I like to have power that's turned on. This is financial infidelity: you’re cheating me and us out of the confidence and financial security we can and should have because you refuse to stop spending and you refuse to negotiate. Let me handle the budgeting and we BOTH get a cash allowance per pay check, or we'll lose the house and then I'll leave. These are your options, along with marriage counseling no matter what happens financially.” It's not manipulation or an idle threat if you fully intend to follow through with it. The consequences of his spending will leave you homeless. The consequence of one spouse running the pair into the ground financially is usually divorce. Rarely, marriage counseling works, but it's sure worth a try. (Look for a sliding scale counselor). Letting him fall down and not rescuing him may work. Have a backup plan of somewhere to stay (get a rental lined up in case you all lose the house) and be prepared for a war with his ego. ETA: generally, unless the money in his “private” account was gifts or an inheritance (or earned prior to marriage), it's JOINT income, not just his. You’re entitled to half of it should you choose to leave. It doesn't matter if the account is older than the marriage, either: once he mixes pre-existing funds with income earned since you 2 married (as it appears he has) AND if he has indeed paid any mutually shared bills (or even vacations, food, etc) with that mixed , it's still half yours. Sugar, he's abusing you by using the finances to control things. I know you say that, but are you ready to look at all the ways you can take action? I suggest individual counseling with an abuse specialist (check your local domestic violence center for free or sliding scale counseling and legal help.) You ae actually causing part of the stress with your current responses. He’ll either change, or he won't, but you must get yourself able to financially support yourself should you lose the house (I say that based on knowing that my husband wouldn’t be invited to move with me in that case until and unless he showed 6 months of financial independence and responsibility.) Not seeking outside help privately, without him, is all on you at this point. I know it's blunt, but blunt seems to work best. You need help right now, not hand-holding. If counseling isn't available, get thee to a financial advisor or atty specializing in financial abuse asap.
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You're crazy, I would never get a joint account with my husband. He too has poor spending habits. I tell him how much to give me every time he gets paid then he can have the rest for whatever. The figure I give him is half of the total bills for the month plus 10% for savings. I control all the money.
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The sooner he faces financial reality the better; your situation will only go downhill. I’ve done tax work for forty years and see this type situation all the time. If you can’t budget or plan finances you had better put it in the hands of somebody who can or your life will be a living hell at best. There is no margin of forgiveness anymore when it comes to money; look at what the idiots in DC have done to us by spending 10 times what comes in and now want to crucify some working stiff taxpayers to correct the situation. Solution? Run for congress appears to be it.
Marriage issues – now what? Today we got snowed in…fun fun. But things were going great until our new dog (chihuahua) bit my husband in the face and drew blood. I understand that it kind of made him mad. Would have me too. But I was cooking some chicken for supper tonight and he kept eating it. I told him to stop it. He grabbed a handful and not intending to cause any serious pain I popped him on top of the hand with the spoon (plastic). It hit just right and hurt. Just as soon as he pulled his hand back he came back and hit me in the face with his palm hard. I was so shocked he did that I didnt feel any pain till about five min after. I’ve never hit him out of anger. I was soo hurt he would do this and be proud of himself. I never said a word. I just walked off. He never said anything to me. He called his friend over and acted like nothing happened and left to go ride. I’m so hurt by this. I dont really know how to take this. Am I wrong for being hurt emotionally? This all happened so fast. He has always had anger issues but never hit me. We’ve been married six yrs and this is a first. I dont know how to take this.
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