How to Save Your Marriage For Real

Your besties and homies may tell you differently, but make no mistake about it, your marriage is the single most important unit on the earth, and if it is in trouble, saving your marriage is one of the greatest things that you’ll ever do. It was no accident that you partnered with your spouse, because no one in the world can give you the things your spouse can. You might be thinking “Well if that is true, why isn’t he or she giving it to me.” Well, that is the question of a lifetime.

You have probably spent the better part of your marriage thinking that your spouse is not giving you what you need because it is not in his or her nature to be as committed as he or she ought to be. Well, I have got some news for you, you can have the kind of marriage where your spouse responds to you with so much love, that you would swear you were dreaming.

You should read through this content properly, the challenge and the plans have a handful of versions. How does that happen? Well I can tell you that there isn’t any magic involved. There’s no psychological techniques or emotional gimmicks to get your spouse to do things against his or her own will. What’s required is for you to comprehend on some level the reason why God created the institution of marriage. You need to know what it’s designed to do, and you need to have confidence that it’ll foster your overall well being, enjoyment, and spiritual growth beyond measure.

Let’s face it, most of us think that we have got it going on. We know what we know-and we are not all that interested in knowing any more. Whether you realize it or not, this is a harmful mentality, one that locks you into a state-of-being that’s stagnant and unproductive. It is the place where you take life as it comes instead of learning how to design your life the way you want it.

There’s a verse in the bible, 1Corinthians 3:10, where the Apostle Paul called himself a wise master builder. I happen to love that verse, and I love the term “wise master builder”, because it lets us know that we can be wise about things that will help us, and we can use that wisdom to masterfully build our lives.

If you’re reading this, God wants YOU to be a wise master builder and He can show you how to become one through your marriage. You see, He designed this thing called marriage in such a way that our spouses are a mirror, reflecting the degree to which we follow or stray away from the path of His love. Yes, God wants to help you save your marriage and show you how to put it back together again, but right now, at this particular moment, it’sn’t about your spouse becoming an architect; it is about you becoming one. You need to learn to rebuild, and you need to do it using quality building materials.

Having said that, we all know that love is one of those “must have” quality materials, but it is one you supposedly started out with when you first married, so where did you go wrong? To answer that question, you need some expert advice, because everybody knows that you do not go to a novice to learn how to do something in the best way possible. You seek out an expert, because an expert does it right from the beginning, and does not leave any detail undone. I do not know about you, but I am placing all my beans on the fact that God is the greatest expert of all time.

The first couple of verses in the fifth chapter of Ephesians says that if we want to know how to give out the best quality of love that we can, we ought to watch what God does, and then do it. He gives out love in abundance, unconditionally, regardless of whether He gets it back. Imagine that! Ephesians goes on to encourage us that like children who learn proper behavior, we ought to learn a life of love. You and I can learn how to love our spouses by learning how Jesus Christ loved us. His love wasn’t cautious or self-serving, but extravagant and rich. He wasn’t out to get something from us, but to give everything of himself to anyone who would receive it.

Boy, that Ephesians packs a mighty punch with that one, right! Some of us look at it and say “Are you kidding me? I do not think I can measure up to that kind of love! The standard is too high! I do not think I can give unconditional love and not expect something in return.” Well, I hear ya. That is a tall order for sure, but each one of us is totally equipped to get it done.

God would not tell us to do something without equipping us for the task first. He has empowered us to give out a top-notch, quality kind of love to our spouses, but you cannot do it if you do not trust that you have it on the inside. Jesus Christ is our master carpenter. He knows how to fix things, and he’s more than too happy to help you repair your marriage, but you cannot fix a thing if you do not trust your own tools. So, this may well be a great place for you to start some handy dandy restoration work; learning to trust that God has given you all you need to love your spouse from a really good place.

Yep, figuring out how to demonstrate to your spouse the quality stuff you have inside is how you save your marriage for real. It is the missing piece of your marriage puzzle. And yes, it takes a whole lot of work, and sometimes we do not want to put that much work into it. Well, you cannot be a wise master builder without putting in the time and the work. Who wants to live in a poorly constructed house, or more to the point, what spouse would be happy with a poorly constructed marriage?

A lot of us go south on this one because we do not want to give of ourselves freely and unconditionally. We expect that our spouses will whine, beg, and pull the quality stuff out of us when they need it. This gives us the wiggle room of blaming them if they nag us too much, or if they complain when we are not being attentive, loving, or compassionate enough. That is a poor game plan. You’ll never build anything of quality that way.

Do not waste any more time asking “why isn’t my spouse giving me what I need?” Because he or she can’t give you what you refuse to give yourself. Trust your capacity to love unselfishly. Then, you’ll come from a place of earnestness and truth when you ask Jesus Christ, the master carpenter, to help you save your marriage for real. Use his example as a workable blueprint to help yourself and save your marriage. Then your spouse will respond to the new way that you’ve learned to love.

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